Is Asking "why" violent?

I have been sick for over a week, and I noticed my mind go to the same sad place as from my childhood. Thoughts about how to solve being in the world, was I of value, doing enough and wondering why I am not as good as others played in my mind. I was lonely and drained. I noticed two things.   I saw how painful trying to understand can be. I went back to little me, my childhood self and sat with the pain of trying to understand. I recalled an NVC trainer who offered the idea to examine the state of asking "why?" Why am I asking why? Does it somehow associate blame? In the Judge Your Neighbor worksheet there is no question 'why?' Why seems to tap into a different questioning than "is it true?" Why is cognitive while the worksheet points towards noticing, simply noticing. Katie often says that, offering to "simply notice". Its such a simple act, free from doing, allowing a relaxation, and ultimately a form of generosity.

  I really sat with my state of hopelessness and vulnerability. Through the Inquiry process I was invited to sit with Hopelessness, without trying to change it an honoring emerged. Katie says, "no two people have ever met", so I could sit with it yet never really meet it, what relief.