I have been sick for over a week, and I noticed my mind go to the same sad place as from my childhood. Thoughts about how to solve being in the world, was I of value, doing enough and wondering why I am not as good as others played in my mind. I was lonely and drained. I noticed two things. I saw how painful trying to understand can be. I went back to little me, my childhood self and sat with the pain of trying to understand. I recalled an NVC trainer who offered the ide

I was mad at my mother. She passed down her judgmental self, her bad habits to me. When working this thought the turnaround hurts- I passed my bad habits to her. During Inquiry I could no longer see where these habits started, and I was reminded of Katie saying that "Fear teaches fear". Could I have taught Mom to act badly? Did I keep the cycle going, one teaching the other...

This book has a drawing of the perfect person and you are invited to compare yourself to that perfection, which results in misery. Comparing- is it practicing kindness? When working a belief such as "I could do better" are we ultimately comparing an imagined self to who we believe we are? Is every 'I' belief a comparison and thus prone to misery? Katies says, "no two people have ever met". Then, have I ever really met myself? Can I meet myself in wonder at the mystery of

"I should know what to do"- the confusion and stress, panic, phobia of this belief- it's quite a lot for anyone, especially a child. When it is turned around to "MY THINKING should know what to do" it relieves having to know what 'I am.' Isn't this one of the greatest mysteries of being human? It's the great "I am that I am" pondering and so on. In the turnaround there is relief from answering the great existential question, which was too much for the little me to bear.